Where to go for help

One reason to tell Tim Ginocchetti’s story is to help others avoid the problems that the Ginocchetti and Rufo families suffered. I promised last August to provide links to resources devoted to such services. I made that promise in reaction to a New York Times story on a lesser-known angle in the Tyler Clementi story. As everyone knows, Clementi tragically killed himself after his college roommate mocked and humiliated him in social media over his homosexuality. What I didn’t know until I read the Times story was that Clementi’s mom took some of the blame, citing her religiously inspired disapproval of Tyler’s coming-out as gay. Since his death, she has led the effort to start the Tyler Clementi Foundation, which promotes anti-bullying messages and services to LGBT youth and their families as they learn and grow.

Similar groups include:

John Schwartz’s excellent book Oddly Normal, which blogged about here and here, has a longer and more detailed list of such groups in its appendix.

Emily Bazelon’s forthcoming book Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power and Character of Empathy provides this excellent resource for teens.

Then there are many other groups advocating for better policies and services, or providing news and information geared to gay teens and others in the LGBT world. A few examples:

Finally, there are the groups for families that lose loved ones in crimes of violence. Perhaps this would not have helped in this situation, but for other families that find themselves in the shocking role of murder victim survivors, there are groups devoted to helping:

This list is by no means exhaustive. My point is, there are many places to turn for accurate information, help, and a friendly listener. Please add you suggestions of other resources in the comments here or on God’s Nobodies’ Facebook page.



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